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Offline homerwannabee

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Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« on: November 17, 2018, 01:58:37 pm »
I've noticed something.  It seems that people are beginning to congratulate the loser.  My question is this, is it cool to do that, or do you think it's wrong to do?
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2018, 05:25:06 pm »
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2018, 09:47:09 pm »
It will not be wrong to congratulate you when you come 2nd in the DK3 open. You will have given it your all and just fallen short
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2018, 09:52:09 pm »
It will not be wrong to congratulate you when you come 2nd in the DK3 open. You will have given it your all and just fallen short

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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #4 on: November 18, 2018, 06:41:25 am »
I say it depends. If there was exactly one game and one person lost and another won, then that's a dumb time to congratulate the loser. If it was a tournament where a mediocre player played better than they normally do and got second place, then I say yeah.
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #5 on: November 18, 2018, 11:29:35 am »
My thought would be if it's a tournament. 2nd is not a loser it's 2nd place. If it's head to head like a football game. Then yeah a winner and a loser.
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #6 on: November 19, 2018, 06:59:57 am »
I've noticed something.  It seems that people are beginning to congratulate the loser.

Source pls. It's impossible to discuss this with you if you don't describe the details and context of what you've "noticed."

Also is it possible that "losers" have always (or for a long time) been congratulated in some way and you just now noticed?
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #7 on: November 19, 2018, 10:52:45 am »
I've noticed something.  It seems that people are beginning to congratulate the loser.

Source pls. It's impossible to discuss this with you if you don't describe the details and context of what you've "noticed."

Also is it possible that "losers" have always (or for a long time) been congratulated in some way and you just now noticed?
Eh, it was in the political realm, and so I didn't/don't want to open up a can of worms by showing the examples.
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #8 on: November 19, 2018, 11:07:06 am »

Fkk this abuse no one congradulated me comming second in the kong off ftt im gone .. <Allen> <Allen> <Allen>
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #9 on: November 19, 2018, 11:23:43 am »
Saying "good game" or "good effort" or "nicely done" or any of the other phrases mean to signify respect to a player or team that has fought hard but still lost is just good sportsmanship.  But I would not call it a congratulations per se, that pretty much goes to the winner.
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #10 on: November 19, 2018, 11:44:39 am »
Eh, it was in the political realm, and so I didn't/don't want to open up a can of worms by showing the examples.

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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2018, 12:42:23 pm »
If you're playing head-to-head like I did at ReplayFX in the arcade tournament finals it's good sportsmanship to shake hands after the round is over. Doesn't matter if it's the quarterfinals or the finals. Same is true in pinball tournaments when you're playing head-to-head. A simple comment of "good game" works.

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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #12 on: November 19, 2018, 03:51:27 pm »
I think good game is acceptable, and definitely shaking hands is a good thing.  It's the actual act of congratulating someone who you just beat in a one on one competition I have a problem with.
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Re: Is it wrong to congratulate the loser?
« Reply #13 on: November 19, 2018, 06:14:37 pm »
If you say "Congratulations on losing" or "Congrats on not beating me" then I agree, that is poor sportsmanship.

As the winner, you should thank them for their effort, but not congratulate them.  As a person further down the rankings, it is ok to congratulate them on getting second.
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