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Streaming => General Streaming Discussion => Topic started by: homerwannabee on September 20, 2014, 02:12:58 pm
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Thinking about it I really do personify all the negative stereotypes of the classic gamer.
Socially awkward. Check
Nothing better to do with my life. Check
Never been in a serious relationship. Check
So yeah it's like being the clueless blonde.
Or the pink leopard print leather wearing homosexual.
Or the Asian guy who only cares about grades, and is truly a bad driver.
So yeah I do bring a bad name to the community because I am the stereotype despite the fact most of us are nothing like that.
So to everyone, sorry for this. I really do wish I wasn't like this, but I love this hobby. I don't see that changing for a very long time.
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Sounds like you are depressed at the moment? Also sounds like you don't like being this stereotype?
Just want to say, you are what you want to be. If you like being stereotype, be that then for the rest of your life. If not, time to CHANGE. It's only up to YOU. It's never to late to change (light or heavy) whatever you want with your life.
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Sounds like you are depressed at the moment? Also sounds like you don't like being this stereotype?
Just want to say, you are what you want to be. If you like being stereotype, be that then for the rest of your life. If not, time to CHANGE. It's only up to YOU. It's never to late to change (light or heavy) whatever you want with your life.
I'm just not wired the right way. I think I am slightly autistic. Last time I checked autism can't be cured.
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"Change that which you cannot accept, and accept that which you cannot change."
PS: Autism rules! Without it, there would be no more videogaming community (just/kidding... or am i? lol). But seriously, i'm convinced some of us HAVE to be somewhat autistic to play the type of games we play, for the length of time we play, and to achieve the insane scores that have been achieved. ;)
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Yeah, I do think autism in some form is prevalent in this community. In the public it's 1 in 88, but I think it's more like 1 in 10, and I think I might be conservative with that number. Remember even Steve Wiebe's own mother thought he was slightly autistic.
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I remember when I was first watching KoK when they were talking about how Steve Wiebe would bump his head against the back of the seat in time with the music, and thinking to myself "holy crap, somebody else besides me did that!"
Anyway, make no mistake, "the spectrum" is strong in classic gamers.
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Do you want to be less socially awkward, want something "better" to do, maybe meet a female and have a relationship?
Force yourself to get out of your comfort zone. Branch out and do something you normally wouldn't do. Broaden your horizons.
I'm also socially awkward, so I know just going out and meeting people is easier said than done. I starting taking dance lessons in June and so far it has been the best decision I've ever made, and I highly recommend it to anyone who has the money. (It can add up and get expensive.) The studio where I take lessons has group lessons and parties where the guy/girl ratio is usually very favorable. I can already sense my social confidence improving and I am having a blast.
If dance lessons aren't for you, look for something else you can join where you will meet people. Pottery lessons...anything. Even if you don't think you will like it, give it a try.
That's my advice...
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I am a long haul truck driver at the moment. Probably one of the least social jobs ever created. I'm away from home weeks at a time. I'm doing none of that. Also driving around in an 80 foot vehicle makes it impossible to hangout anywhere besides gas stations, and some Wal-Marts. Truck driving is a good job for the socially inept like myself. Ironically I'm actually pretty open. Just happen to speak randomly, and awkwardly.
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I've personally also been "socially awkward" in the past. It's easy to lack in social skills when you have self confidence problems. I guess the most important thing in life is to have self confidence, and to learn to not bother too much about what people think of what you do, or say.
And also, woman-wise, for those that don't really go out, it might be a good idea to try online dating. Since I wasn't really the type of guy that went out a lot, I've tried online dating for like 2 years, and that's how I met my girlfriend, Alexandra. Some people still have "prejudices" against online dating, but in fact, it's a very nice way to learn a lot about someone before meeting her, and to actually be able to meet people that want a relationship. And for "socially awkward" people, it's often easier to break the ice when talking to a girl behind a keyboard, at first.
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NERDS
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NERDS
Ok Ogre!
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I've tried online dating for like 2 years
ChatRoulette doesn't count as online dating.
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ChatRoulette doesn't count as online dating.
Yeah, you're right. I tried to date girls with Chatroulette, but it didn't work. Each time I was matched with a girl, she always left within the next 5 seconds... well, maybe because I was part of the 90% of the Chatroulette users that always show their c*ck, but still! Kappa
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As the father of an 8 year old with severe autism, I can safely say that if you are playing video games at a high level, then even slight autism is very unlikely. One of the traits of autism is physical clumsiness. Being a nerd or socially awkward does not make you autistic. One of the reasons for the increased number of people being diagnoses as autistic is because everyone who has a nerdy kid thinks they have autism. They just keep expanding the spectrum and it feels like someday we'll all be diagnosed. A bit frustrating for those of us with kids who obviously have issues.
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First off, I am very sorry that you, and your son have to go through this. I substitute taught a class that was for autistics. My problems are nowhere near you, and your son's problems.
A better term for you might be aspergers. Some very successful people have been thought to have that. That's before the latest DSM eliminated the term, and decided to label it slight autism.
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Don't feel bad . You have the grass is always greener on the other side mentality . Disclaimer: This is my opinion.......Woman are stupid and a waste of time and only good for one thing...and you know what that one thing is.....
I've had a lot of girlfriends and theres always girls that want to go out with me , but lately as I've gotten older I like to do my own thing and not put up with having to answer to someone else . If I wanna play video games with my friends tonight , I don't want to have to worry about pissing off this girl because she wanted to hang out tonight . Girls always challenge you to make sure THEY are first priority and nothing else gets first priority in your life .
Point is ,
NERD = can't get girls , feels lame , dumb , a loser
Guys that get girls = Annoyed and sick of their crap , doesn't want a girlfriend , stop calling me I want to go play video games with my friends !!! Damn I don't want a girl friend !!!
And then theres the guy that gets cheated on and is depressed , sad , Angered every day thinking about that damn girl that cheated on him and lied . Whereas you driving in your truck might be a little sad wishing you weren't lonely , but thats far better than being divorced because your wife cheated on you and now all you do is work to support 3 kids while your ex-wife is off with some other guy .
See you actually have it pretty good right now and didn't even know it .
If you really wanna screw your self over and get a girlfriend , then learn an instrument , join a rock band and go play clubs , girls like guys that play in rock bands .
Oh yeah and another thing , get nice clothes , trendy stuff and get a haircut at the expensive salon places , a haircut that makes you stand out from other guys , but nothing crazy looking . Hair like Tom Crusies long hair in Mission Impossible . Girls are all about IMAGE !!! If you look the part , without even saying a word girls will be checking you out . You'll be surprised . You'll be like , all I did was change my clothes and hair and now girls are smiling at me and coming up to talk to me .
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This is my opinion.......Woman are stupid and a waste of time and only good for one thing...and you know what that one thing is.....
I've had a lot of girlfriends and theres always girls that want to go out with me , but lately as I've gotten older I like to do my own thing and not put up with having to answer to someone else . If I wanna play video games with my friends tonight , I don't want to have to worry about pissing off this girl because she wanted to hang out tonight . Girls always challenge you to make sure THEY are first priority and nothing else gets first priority in your life .
Mate you're hanging around the wrong women
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This is my opinion.......Woman are stupid and a waste of time and only good for one thing...and you know what that one thing is.....
I've had a lot of girlfriends and theres always girls that want to go out with me , but lately as I've gotten older I like to do my own thing and not put up with having to answer to someone else . If I wanna play video games with my friends tonight , I don't want to have to worry about pissing off this girl because she wanted to hang out tonight . Girls always challenge you to make sure THEY are first priority and nothing else gets first priority in your life .
Mate you're hanging around the wrong women
Quoted for truth
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This is my opinion.......Woman are stupid and a waste of time and only good for one thing...and you know what that one thing is.....
I've had a lot of girlfriends and theres always girls that want to go out with me , but lately as I've gotten older I like to do my own thing and not put up with having to answer to someone else . If I wanna play video games with my friends tonight , I don't want to have to worry about pissing off this girl because she wanted to hang out tonight . Girls always challenge you to make sure THEY are first priority and nothing else gets first priority in your life .
Mate you're hanging around the wrong women
Quoted for truth
I second the notion to re-quote Wes for said truth.
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Don't feel bad . You have the grass is always greener on the other side mentality . Disclaimer: This is my opinion.......Woman are stupid and a waste of time and only good for one thing...and you know what that one thing is.....
I've had a lot of girlfriends and theres always girls that want to go out with me , but lately as I've gotten older I like to do my own thing and not put up with having to answer to someone else . If I wanna play video games with my friends tonight , I don't want to have to worry about pissing off this girl because she wanted to hang out tonight . Girls always challenge you to make sure THEY are first priority and nothing else gets first priority in your life .
Point is ,
NERD = can't get girls , feels lame , dumb , a loser
Guys that get girls = Annoyed and sick of their crap , doesn't want a girlfriend , stop calling me I want to go play video games with my friends !!! Damn I don't want a girl friend !!!
And then theres the guy that gets cheated on and is depressed , sad , Angered every day thinking about that damn girl that cheated on him and lied . Whereas you driving in your truck might be a little sad wishing you weren't lonely , but thats far better than being divorced because your wife cheated on you and now all you do is work to support 3 kids while your ex-wife is off with some other guy .
See you actually have it pretty good right now and didn't even know it .
If you really wanna screw your self over and get a girlfriend , then learn an instrument , join a rock band and go play clubs , girls like guys that play in rock bands .
Oh yeah and another thing , get nice clothes , trendy stuff and get a haircut at the expensive salon places , a haircut that makes you stand out from other guys , but nothing crazy looking . Hair like Tom Crusies long hair in Mission Impossible . Girls are all about IMAGE !!! If you look the part , without even saying a word girls will be checking you out . You'll be surprised . You'll be like , all I did was change my clothes and hair and now girls are smiling at me and coming up to talk to me .
Like many people, you focus on the what. I don't care about the what. I care about the why. The what is just the weeds in full form. The why is what grows the weeds from the beginning.
Edit: I had laid out a response of over indulgent philosophical mumbo jumbo, but decided since it is Christmas day to eliminate it so people can be in better Christmas spirits. Merry Christmas DK Forum. :)
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And to think...all those years I wasted with an MI2 haircut....the answer was here all along
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Yes this is true not all women are that way : Theres two types ,
Really good Looking Women = get hit on all day long , all day long every where they go , they KNOW they can get lots of guys , so if you don't cater to them , let them get their way , they move on to who will give them what they want . So if they call you friday night and they wanna go out to the city but you wanna go play video games with your friends ......well say bye , bye to her , shes eventually gonna hook up with one of the many other guys waiting in line , chasing her .
Ugly women , border line ugly , very average = those are the ones you guys will say "not all women are that way" , because they don't have guys lining up to go out with them , so they take what they can get and hold on even if they have to settle . Thats your so called "not all girls are like that" . If you turn one of your guy's average/ugly girls into a really hot girl , she'd dump your ass in two seconds if some really hot guy was hitting on her at work . You be screwed .
Its the truth .
I'm gonna hear 20 more "you haven't found the right girl" well if you found this right girl is she really that Hot ?? I bet you shes not . Shes probably the female version of this guy <Pigger> Hahah....sorry Mark.....
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Yes this is true not all women are that way : Theres two types ,
Really good Looking Women = get hit on all day long , all day long every where they go , they KNOW they can get lots of guys , so if you don't cater to them , let them get their way , they move on to who will give them what they want . So if they call you friday night and they wanna go out to the city but you wanna go play video games with your friends ......well say bye , bye to her , shes eventually gonna hook up with one of the many other guys waiting in line , chasing her .
Ugly women , border line ugly , very average = those are the ones you guys will say "not all women are that way" , because they don't have guys lining up to go out with them , so they take what they can get and hold on even if they have to settle . Thats your so called "not all girls are like that" . If you turn one of your guy's average/ugly girls into a really hot girl , she'd dump your ass in two seconds if some really hot guy was hitting on her at work . You be screwed .
Its the truth .
I'm gonna hear 20 more "you haven't found the right girl" well if you found this right girl is she really that Hot ?? I bet you shes not . Shes probably the female version of this guy <Pigger> Hahah....sorry Mark.....
In my experience, the people who say these kinds of things are typically very bad at understanding or communicating with women. Also, there are a few female members of the DK / DKF community I'd imagine would be very offended by this. I could refute all of what you just wrote, but I'm not going to bother because you're probably a hopeless case if you're this set in your beliefs.
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WTF? When did DKF turn into 4chan?
Please keep this crap out of a gaming forum that welcomes to both men and women.
Thanks.
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Yes this is true not all women are that way : Theres two types ,
Really good Looking Women = get hit on all day long , all day long every where they go , they KNOW they can get lots of guys , so if you don't cater to them , let them get their way , they move on to who will give them what they want . So if they call you friday night and they wanna go out to the city but you wanna go play video games with your friends ......well say bye , bye to her , shes eventually gonna hook up with one of the many other guys waiting in line , chasing her .
Ugly women , border line ugly , very average = those are the ones you guys will say "not all women are that way" , because they don't have guys lining up to go out with them , so they take what they can get and hold on even if they have to settle . Thats your so called "not all girls are like that" . If you turn one of your guy's average/ugly girls into a really hot girl , she'd dump your ass in two seconds if some really hot guy was hitting on her at work . You be screwed .
Its the truth .
I'm gonna hear 20 more "you haven't found the right girl" well if you found this right girl is she really that Hot ?? I bet you shes not . Shes probably the female version of this guy <Pigger> Hahah....sorry Mark.....
I can tell you first hand this is not true. I'm pretty gamer geeky and my girlfriend is hot. Be careful though, if they are to hot and to chill they might be a tranny!
-Ken
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Yes this is true not all women are that way : Theres two types ,
Really good Looking Women = get hit on all day long , all day long every where they go , they KNOW they can get lots of guys , so if you don't cater to them , let them get their way , they move on to who will give them what they want . So if they call you friday night and they wanna go out to the city but you wanna go play video games with your friends ......well say bye , bye to her , shes eventually gonna hook up with one of the many other guys waiting in line , chasing her .
Ugly women , border line ugly , very average = those are the ones you guys will say "not all women are that way" , because they don't have guys lining up to go out with them , so they take what they can get and hold on even if they have to settle . Thats your so called "not all girls are like that" . If you turn one of your guy's average/ugly girls into a really hot girl , she'd dump your ass in two seconds if some really hot guy was hitting on her at work . You be screwed .
Its the truth .
I'm gonna hear 20 more "you haven't found the right girl" well if you found this right girl is she really that Hot ?? I bet you shes not . Shes probably the female version of this guy <Pigger> Hahah....sorry Mark.....
Wow, I believe you have gotten your fare share of women in your life, but I am amazed that you have no clue how you got those women. It wasn't your clothes or hair cut.
It was you are most likely an alpha male that got you those women. As far as Ken goes. He also has an alpha male personality. He might be a nerd, but he is an alpha nerd. So is Billy Mitchell by the way. I guess some people really can't see the forest through the trees.
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There are lots of different types of women out there. Although some may fit these descriptions, I assure you there are more types/categories of woman, of all shape, size, and appearance. Though this I believe is beyond the types of discussions which I usually encounter on this forum. Let's please try to keep it game related.
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weird discussion for a classic arcade gaming forum
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OK, I'll bring this back in focus. What diverted was I think the misinterpretation that I think it sucks having a lack of ability with women. No I have analyzed that to the nth degree. No it's me fitting a negative stereotype about gamers.
I perpetuate the stereotype, and that is what sucks. In a way I give a bad name to the hobby because of it.
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I think the focus has deviated beyond repair and this entire thread should be deleted.
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I think the focus has deviated beyond repair and this entire thread should be deleted.
yes
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Hamster is obviously autistic 8)
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In my experience, the people who say these kinds of things are typically very bad at understanding or communicating with women.
This x 1000.
I find hamsters remarks pretty disgusting and not a little disturbing.
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weird discussion for a classic arcade gaming forum
No one can start a thread as homerwannabee! ;)